Object of Affection Question


The other day I heard a catchy 80s tune on the radio and stopped channel-flipping. After only a few words filled my ears, my eyes were opened to the blatant difference between growing up with pop music and the modern worship and Christian radio songs I now prefer today.  If you were like me, and spent an adolescence and young adulthood caught up in pop music or the latest hit country song, these songs might ring a bell.  Ponder these titles and even their familiar lyrics for a moment:

We’ll start out with the song that stopped my radio flipping, and that was “Hungry Heart”, which truly sums up mankind’s dilemma.  Then there’s “Owner of a Lonely Heart” which we can all relate to at times, of course.  Who hasn’t belted out “Total Eclipse of the Heart”, but again, therein lies the issue within these lyrics.  Country gets a nod in this list with “I Cross My Heart”, but I beg to differ that in the all the world you WILL find a Love truer than his.  And then we’ve got the ever-so-dangerous “Listen to Your Heart”, which, if you have followed that convoluted compass, you likely experienced as much regret as I have through the years.

The difference I’m getting at with these songs is found in the object of our affection we’re singing about. So much of mainstream music is focused on another person as the be-all-and-end-all to our happiness. I know I was sucked into that lie for decades, until my heart found the One it’d longed for since conception.  As the author in Psalm 139:13-16 speaks to our Heavenly Father, our Creator, he reminds us:

“For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb.
I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, and skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth; Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; and in Your book were all written the days that were ordained for me, when as yet there was not one of them.”

God made you… in great detail…and you are wonderfully made!  He’s written all the days of your life and He longs to relate closely with you now!

Another verse that excites me about the Lover of our Souls is Zephaniah 3:17:
“The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save;
He will rejoice over you with gladness; He will quiet you by His love;
He will exult over you with loud singing.”

God is crazy about you.

Neither Valentine’s Day nor any day of the year with someone we love can make us feel complete and fully loved as will the times we spend in close relationship with our Creator.  God is the only One who can love us truly unconditionally and perfectly, and He has loved us with an everlasting love. (Jer. 31:3) 1 John 3:1 states, “See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God.”
A holy, perfect, all-powerful, all-knowing, creator of the universe loves us and call us His.

I encourage and I implore you to lay down the burden of chasing fleeting love, or in the words of Johnny Lee, to stop “Lookin’ for love in all the wrong places.”  If you’ve got a great spouse or companion, cherish that wonderful gift, but let them off the hook if you’ve set them up with the expectation of fulfilling your every desire. Find freedom in offering grace for their imperfections, and seek out complete fulfillment in knowing the One who created you with that desire for Him alone.

In closing, let’s reflect on who we’re turning to and who we’re singing about as the object of our affection and fulfillment.  As Augustine spoke in the 1st Century to our Heavenly Father, “You have made us for Yourself, and our hearts are restless, until they can find rest in You.”

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